Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Am I Smiling Too Much?

Im like really into reading peoples body language like eye contact and body posture and what not. When is comes to body language somethings you just cant change. Like there was this show on fox called "Lie To Me" it's totally awesome and just got renewed for another season Woo! Any way I learned a lot about people and things that we just cant help to do.......

Anyway like I was saying BODY LANGUAGE is very important when trying to tell if someone is into you and to get someone to know that your into them. The four main tips that i have and have gotten from http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/singles_and_dating/techniques_flirting.shtml are.

Mirroring. This is what separates a good flirt from a great flirt: nothing will bond you more effectively than mirroring someone's behaviour. This simply means you do whatever it is they do. If they lean forward to tell you something intimate, you lean in to meet them. If they sit back to take a sip of their drink and look you in the eye, you pause then follow suit.

The theory behind mirroring is that we like people who are like us. If someone is doing what we're doing, we feel they're on the same level as us and in the same mood as we are.

There are two no-go areas with this one, though: firstly, only mirror positive body language; second, capture the spirit rather than mimicking them. As a general rule, wait around 50 seconds before following their gestures.


The eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they are similarly attracted, they raise their eyebrows in return. Never noticed? It's not surprising since the whole thing lasts only about a fifth of a second!

We're not consciously aware of doing it, but it's a gesture that is duplicated by every culture on Earth. In fact, some experts claim it's the most instantly recognised non-verbal sign of greeting used by humans.

The trick is to watch for it when you meet someone you fancy. Better still, tell them you're interested on a subconscious level by prolonging your eyebrow flash for up to one second - deliberately raise them while catching their eye for full impact.


Pointing. Sneak a peek at what their feet and hands are doing - we tend to point toward the person we're interested in. If we find someone attractive, we'll often point at them subconsciously with our hands arms, feet, legs, toes.

Again, it's an unconscious indicator to make our intentions known. Unconsciously, this is often picked up by the other person, without them really knowing why.

So if you've got your eye on someone in the corner, point your body in their direction - even if you don't make eye contact, they may take the hint.


Blinking. If someone likes what they see, their pupil size increases and so does their blink rate. If you want to up the odds in your favour, try increasing the blink rate of the person you're talking to, by blinking more yourself. If the person likes you, they'll unconsciously try to match your blink rate to keep in sync with you, which in turn, makes you both feel more attracted to each other!

And remember don't just judge by one clue on its own unless its like dead obvious because sometime people blink because they have something in their eye or they flash an eye brow because you have something in your teeth....you never know so be careful.


With love......B.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Fatal Attraction

Ive found that in life there will be alot more cases of requited Love than actual Love. Ive also found that just about everytime when you realise the guy doesnt really feel the same way, IT SUCKS. There are many ways to deal this problem. I will now list mine...... :)

  1. Cry (Crying is a simple way to let out harbored emotions and it just feels really good sometimes, it can help clear your head and make you think is he worth all this?)
  2. Write ( Writing can help you release all the things that you are thinking about but never say and maybe express some not so nice things you might not want to say to people. To make it even better you can just burn what you wrote later. )
  3. Listening to love songs ( These just make me smile )
  4. Reading Love Quotes( who knows they just help me. )

Some Songs.......
  • Lions, Tigers & Bears - Jazmine Sullivan
  • Things I'll Never Say - Avril Lavigne
  • Realize - Colbie Caillat
  • Have You Ever - Brandy
  • I Will Be Waiting - Kelly Sweet
  • Symptoms Of You - Lindsay Lohan
  • Crazy For You - ADELE
  • Tell Him - Colbie Caillat

What we see.....

Hi everyone,

Thanks for stopping by. If this is by accident thats good too because your still reading so.....yeah. I would like to start off by saying what the purpose of this blog is.

This blog is to HELP and just maybe bring a smile to someones face. i hope that i might be able to do that for you guys. This is just the beginging of my blog. So.........Lets go!

With Love......B.

With Love......

How many of you have ever been the one to not be seen ? How many of you have been the one not to be listened to? How many of have been the one who in general is just "NOT IT"?

How many of you love to laugh? How many of you love to live life? How many of you love Cartoons?

I have.

This is not a blog of "Girly Emotional Things" (well kinda).

This is a blog of Me.


With Love...... B.